Have you heard the expression “Attitude is everything”? Well in the V.E.A.R. process it is actually ¼ of everything. When initiating any endeavour it is of vital importance that you enter into it with the right Attitude. Before you start a project, you should have already seen the success of that project in complete 3D detail in your Vision. In your mind, your success shouldn’t be in question at all. All the work you need to do to reach your goal should simply be viewed as “red tape”. It’s just stuff you need to get through and it’s all stuff you CAN get through.
Too many people start projects with a “Plan B” or failure excuse already at the ready. They may “try” to lose weight or quit smoking and for a couple of weeks they’ll count their calories, exercise, go on the nicotine patch…. But a month later there may be some big stressor at work that demands “all” of their time. Now there’s no time to exercise and it’s quicker and easier to grab some fast food for lunch. They “need” that smoke to calm theirr nerves… “But at least they tried” Did they? Did they really? Did they really “try” if they planned all along to fail?
Any goal needs to start with a strong Vision. First you need to know you are pursuing the right Vision. How badly do you really want it? Second, you need to see this success in your Vision in all dimensions. You need to trick your subconscious into believing your dream is already a reality. But you also need to be realistic. My motto is “If it can be done, it can be done by me”. Before you embark on the pursuit of your goal, honestly ask yourself if it can be done. Can a 5’4” woman be an NBA center? Can a 6’6” 240lb dude be a top horse jockey? Can a person who values their family, health, and leisure time far more than money go from meager beginnings to become a millionaire?
Those first 2 questions are easy to answer. If you’re not tall enough, you can’t be a center in the NBA. If you weigh too much, you can’t be a top horse jockey. But can someone from meager beginnings become a millionaire? Has it been done before? Yes it has. But how was it done? I believe that anyone can become a millionaire. But to reach that goal will require ALL of your focus. Unless you are extremely lucky, I don’t think it’s possible to earn that level of wealth and still be home at 5pm every day to play with the kids and take your weekends to go on extended canoe trips with the family. So maybe your goal is possible, but are you really willing to make the necessary sacrifices?
I think many diets fail simply because the person wants that chocolate éclair more than he wants to be thin. It’s that simple. If you want something, quite often something else needs to be sacrificed. Depending on the goal, that sacrifice might be a chocolate éclair or it may be time with your kids. You have to be honest with yourself and ask yourself what it is you want more. In essence this task is extremely straight forward, but in reality, the process can get complicated. But once you’ve made those decisions and decided upon your goal, than that should be that. Full steam ahead! Your Attitude needs to be one of total confidence. In your mind, success is guaranteed.
